He was going to be (and still will be) my little buddy, strapped to dad's chest on our adventures together. All I would need was milk, a change of baby clothes and a few nappies, and we'd be ready. Whilst travelling, I was thinking of picking up a new language, seeing various friends spread across the country, and in between trips, carrying on with a part-time degree. He'll sleep loads of the day anyway...
Whilst being unable to think straight from having no sleep for the first two weeks after he was born, it only took me the third week to realise this list looks a little ambitious. But I prefer to be exhausted and doing stuff, rather than rested but bored, so I held out hope. When he was about a month old, it dawned on me that despite the 5/6 hours of sleep Little Bear was meant to have during the day, it wasn't 5/6 hours I was going to have to myself. For the last 2 months, most of those 5 hours were spent holding him whilst bouncing on the exercise ball (panacea to all crying) since he's been progressing through wind, colic, some early teething and now eczema. The list needed some editing.
When he was around 3 months old, my wife flew to Sweden for a family thing, giving me and the Little Bear our first long-weekend together alone. I knew it might be tough since we had shared caring for him when I wasn't at work, so I decided to take him to see some people out of London. Shortly after we stepped out the door, in quick succession: he started crying in the pushchair; it started raining; rain cover came out; dummy thrown to the floor; umbrella came out; second dummy rejected; slowing down meant we missed the bus; umbrella broke; spilled his milk everywhere whilst waiting for the next bus; still crying because foolish daddy was being too slow with the milk... So I now realise several mistakes were made here, but I quickly realised the list needed some further editing.
Even when I found I'd have more SPL with him than I thought, expectations needed to come down. This is how it's looking now, with a few replacements in pink.
The List (v2):
So just a little less ambitious now we've been parents for 5 months. The upside is that the more time I spend with him, the more I realise it's going to be far from boring. I just need to have a bit of a reality check on what we can get up to together starting from next week.
I'm Dave, dad of Little Bear. Also known as 'Pappa' to the little man as we try and bring out his Swedish roots