Ever heard the expression 'Mr Mom' when dads parent? Mums, ever noticed what a hard time mums get parenting compared to dads? Dads, ever felt over-indulged, patronized or like your masculinity is being questioned just because you're parenting? What if people saw dads like they saw mums and vice versa?...
" We went to 'Parent and Baby Group' yesterday and saw all the other dads. Saw Jim with baby Storm [good job dads decide names, they're much cooler]. He said she was sleeping on her front! So irresponsible. Dads should know better.
Even a mum turned up on her own with her little boy. At first we thought it must be her day off work and she was giving the dad a break, but she said she was there full time. We were all then thinking she must be a widow, but turns out the dad is still around, just choosing to take a break from being dad and working instead. We all told her what a great 'Mrs Dad' she was helping her husband out and baby-sitting the little one for a bit. What an amazing mum bringing her little one to play group all on her own! She should be really proud of herself.
Although, makes you wonder a little bit, how can she manage the little one all alone, and how could the dad manage to go back to work! I would be too worried thinking about my little guys all the time to let that happen. The 'Mrs Dad' idea is great, and mums can be a great help with the babies, but let's be honest, it's not quite the same as having a proper dad around.
The one advantage they get I guess is that there's no danger of being kicked between the legs when changing nappies, although difficult to imagine woman changing a nappy right of course! They'll probably get the wrong size and do it back to front. She complained that the only changing station was in the bloke's toilet at the station. I said she should just ask the guys to leave and use it anyway... Doesn't seem practical to have too many changing stations, and dads change nappies more.
Mums are great during the pregnancy and labour, but everyone knows there's a special bond between a father and his child, and that it's best for him to look after the baby. It's all natural you see. It's all about paternal instincts.
There'll be a time when the little guy just wants daddy and they're going to have a real problem when dad's working instead of caring for his own baby. Which reminds me, Mark is trying to get baby Thor to walk before he's crawling properly. A couple of the dads told him this was a bad move. Of course! Mark should know this. He's a dad after all.
Jack also saw Mark using the push-chair when he really should have been carrying baby Thor in the baby-carrier (none of this sling nonsense). Mark said the carrier was hurting his back and it was his body! Not cool Mark! Everyone knows dads should always do what's best for their baby regardless of your own 'convenience', and 'comfort'. Poor Thor: he'll probably grow up a backward and emotionally deranged cripple now.
Andy mentioned to the mum that she probably had really clear instructions from the baby's dad, otherwise how would she know what to do! We noticed she gave the baby some canned baby-food (not organic!), but I can understand since it's probably really tough as a Mrs Dad and she's trying her best.
But of course it must be hard for her as well taking on the man's role, 'playing dad' for a bit, when she's probably prefer to the working and bringing home the bacon. Think how weird it must feel for her to be a 'Kept Woman' now. Jim suspects she lost her job and ended up having to stay at home while the dad was forced to carry on working. Come to think of it, it must be pretty defeminising to know she's not the one supporting the family at the moment!
My wife wanted to take a couple of months off work to help me out with the little ones, but here boss made it clear that would be bad for her career, and we really need her to get promoted soon. Plus we couldn't really afford it since I wont be working for the next few years with a growing family.
I wonder how long the mum will last before dad has to step back into the picture?... "
I'm Dave, dad of Little Bear. Also known as 'Pappa' to the little man as we try and bring out his Swedish roots
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