How Nordic attitudes to kids involve more empathy and a different sort of parenting judgment
Parenting is a judgey business. As a parent you read about, talking about and do parenting on a daily basis. You face continual challenges as your little trolls change each time you’ve just gotten use to something. You adapt, and after so many adaptations you become an expert on your kid. We also believe we are experts on all other children.
So when we see other parents doing something we disagree with we stare and judge, and they feel it. It would be a lie to claim that Swedish parents don’t also judge. All experts have opinions about others in their field. But the judgment comes from a different perspective and makes a big difference.
Saying goodbye is the hardest part of leaving. It's tough for us, but how do we prep our kids?
How do you get a toddler to understand they’re moving country? Well, I’m proud to say that Little Bear has been confidently and happily announcing that we’re ‘moving till ‘tockho’m soon’and that it’s going to be ‘weally, weally fun’. He’s even excited about ‘riding da boat to Tockhom’(no, we’re not mad, we’re actually flying there). No trauma, no fears of displacement. He’s clearly fine with it all…
Well, let’s be honest, he’s two. He has no f-ing idea what’s about to happen. I could have told him we were moving to a dessert in Afghanistan or a frozen lake in Siberia for the rest of our lives, and he’d be equally ecstatic.
I’m pretty sure there’s no sensible solution to ‘getting them ready for the move’. When they’ve spent their entire lives in one home regularly meeting the same friends, they’re just not yet aware enough to understand the enormity of moving to a new country. Pre-moving, it’s a lot more difficult for us adults.
Moving from London to Stockholm, this blog is about learning to become a Nordic Dad as I settle Little Bear into his new home
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